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Hi Priya,

It appears that this guy was a waste of time and you are well rid of him. If he was a decent man he would have been honest about his situation and told you the truth, even if it means truth hurts. If for some reason his decision or the families decison for the marriage not to go ahead was due to you have viltigo well he wasn’t worth marrying in the first place. I would have respected him for being honest but obviously this wasn’t the case. Regards to telling this other guy I don’t think you should because that was in the past and frankly I has nothing to do with him. In terms of calling your ex-fiancee I would not borther because you have all really waste enough time on him, I definetly wouldn’t give him the time of day or waste my time. Why should you have to teach this guy a lesson, he’s not a child he should have been an adult about it and confronted you even if he was only interested in the outer beauty. Guy’s are generally shallow if that’s the only reason why they are attracted to you, beauty is only skin deep and it certainly doesn’t last.

I too have vitiligo, approxiately for 13 years, now am 33 years old and single. I am very positive about how i look and certainly would not let a man get in the way of that. If the guy’s are to shallow to see beyond my skin condition well they are not worth knowing and i certainly would not waste my time either. I am currently writing up my PhD thesis, while doing my studies I have come across men from various health and psychology professional i have noticed many are to stuck up their behinds and treat individuals with illness and conditions as we are worthless. Llife is to short to be worrying about men anyway. But I am sure you will find you soul mate, weather that’s today, tommorow, next week, following month or years. just be patient.

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